Picture yourself in the life you have always wanted; a fit body, a job that you love with passion, a good-looking couple, true friends and a beautiful family. Think of that kind of life with a good car, a house by the lake, which you could retreat to on free weekends as a reward to a lifetime’s work. That is what I call success. If you are after success, let yourself be guided be the 3D’s philosophy of life. I guarantee you can achieve anything you want, as I have done throughout these last five years. Within this philosophy you will find three diamonds: decision, determination and discipline. Pride will come due your hard work and will never allow you to withdraw.
I learned this philosophy from a wise man: Shakiru Matti, my former squash coach, who taught me the right path to follow in life. He always led by the example, setting a plan; following it concretely; and never quitting. On July of 2004, in the club’s locker room he told me I had been training with such passion and courage that he could not comprehend how I managed to train that way; without pursuing a goal. He said he had been waiting for me to mature enough to understand the “3D’s Philosophy of Life”. Shakiru was inspired, talking to me as he had never done before. His message was so convincing, so I listened attentively.
Shakiru began by saying, “Decision is the first and easiest branch. It is when you define your plan; when you state both your goals and the way to reach them”. “Determination”, he explained using a handful of gestures, and narrating anecdotes “is the key I have used to fulfill my life objectives”. Last, he emphasized that the last diamond was the most treasured. “It is the disengaging point from childhood to manhood”, he pointed out. “Discipline is the hardest task you can confront in life, but also the key to it. If you are disciplined, you have your goals in your pocket and it will only be a matter of time before they become part of your life.”
After Shakiru left Guatemala, inheriting me knowledge and a plan for me to be the best player in Guatemala within 4 years, it was my duty to honor him. I went for it with a greater craving than ever before, turning unstoppable during training sessions. My fitness and game towered intensely. Hence, I found the philosophy very rational, and I began using it in my daily life, and projected my future clearer.
I started thinking what I wanted to do in my life, what I wanted to achieve, which places I wanted to reach and the reputation I wanted to have. I had to make a choice; I had to write my decisions down. I knew my English needed improvement for I wanted to study in America since I was ten. This became my prime goal. Next, my mathematics level had to be upraised, given that I wanted to succeed in my economical-related career. Last, I was already working to be the top squash player in my country –by then, I was only in the top 20.
Discipline made me sacrifice several things I loved to do, such as going to parties with my friends or watching T.V. after coming back from training on weekdays. I chose to save that energy and time, to invest them all in training and studying. For instance, sometimes I am jumping rope on Friday nights while my friends are having fun with girls. Many people have called me crazy, others passionate, but I call it discipline. I am proud of myself for reaching my goals.
Determination is tough; it allows no mediocrity at all. There is no feeling compared to that of working out until you cannot go any further, and let that exertion make your body give in with the force of gravity right in the middle of the squash court, eyes closed with passion, feeling your muscles aching, and your chest about to explode, seeking for air, knowing that you could have not done it better. This is how I have come to claim the top spot in Guatemala, and thus, honoring Shakiru.
Some days are completely different, studying English and Math 5 hours a day. Despite of all those boring moments with passages and useless equations, when all I want to do is be somewhere else, I know that the effort will be worthwhile. I imagine the reward that awaits at the end of the tunnel, and find the strength to stay on.
I have had very frustrating situations in which I considered about leaving the plans. I called Shakiru to let him know about my concerns. He uplifted me, saying, “Mau, if it were that easy, the world would have no differences, we could reach anything just by wishing it. We would all have a great English, Math and Squash level. Do you really want this?” I replied in a harsh tone, “Come on Shakiru, you know perfectly well how much I really want it”. “Then, prove it to the world, not to me. Be brave!” he said imperatively. At that moment silence reigned in the room. I was shocked. It was true; Shakiru knew I wanted to succeed in the world, not only in school or the club. I dislike saying this, but I cried when I found myself attached to the confusing feeling of being limited although I had the talent, the will and the support from my family. Afterwards, I found out that successful people have failed several times in their lives.
During these last five years I have learned extremely much. I have learned to be proud of what I do, keeping my head up; to have the ambition to want something good, visualizing myself grabbing it; to acknowledge that it takes time to learn even the basics; to discover the deepest parts of me, knowing I do not feel threatened by any challenge when I use the philosophy; to know that making good decisions and having the discipline and determination will lead me nowhere but success. I have learned to always ask myself for more, as I know I can make anything if I want.
Today, I have achieved most of the goals I have set; I have failed in the first stages in some others, but those failures made me humble and made me keener and thus, more focused to reach my goals. Today I have a great English level. I speak, write and read it extremely different than in the 2004; mathematics improved, founding a better taste for them, applying them whenever I can; and reaching in December of 2008 the top spot of the country. These experiences will be proudly reminded all my life as successes, and I also know those were just the beginning. Today I am ready to challenge myself with higher goals. I am proud of what I have done so far. All the achievements have been supported by a decision, determination and discipline.
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